Lead Yourself


As I am sitting here praying for you all and your businesses so many different emotions and thoughts began to run through my mind and spirit. I know some of your stories and others I do not. But I know what it takes to be a woman, a wife, a mother, a daughter in business. The highs and lows of life are so real. Sometimes business is booming and sometimes it flat lines. At times our relationships are easy and others they are challenging. Some days our bodies feel up to it, other days we feel like we were run over by a truck!

Life happens to us all and pressure is applied to us ALL. But the difference is how we handle it. Some quit at every test, some keep going while lashing out at everyone around them. Then a few press through and fight to be consistent, constantly checking their own heart, and thoughts. Being careful with their words, managing their time, constantly aware of what comes out of them when the pressure is applied. Success ladies is a two edged sword, it comes with more challenges, more influence, and more problems to solve. It comes with more risks and more rewards. The ability to lead others is more about leading yourself (remember that). It means being vulnerable, transparent, selfless, a student, discipline, a good listener, note taker, slow to speak, caring, balanced, giving, no nonsense, wise and more! What draws people to you and your business is your ability to lead yourSELF.

So I say all this to say, so many will go crazy looking outwardly for what they need to fill voids in their business and in life. The get all worked up and anxious about what it is they want to see happen, their expectations for others are higher than they are for themselves. They jump from networking group to networking group looking for "divine connections". Their mindset is always, "What can I get? What's in it for me?" They always complain about people wanting to use them and manipulate them. They have a hard time trusting people so they don’t take the time to slow down and get to know anyone. But if they come across someone they think fits the criteria to get them closer to their goals they instantly connect! They open up their life to people that seemingly have what they want. They gamble with their their purpose and destiny and end up disappointed when they don’t get the results they hoped for. Soon after they disconnect bitter and upset, but carelessly they go on the hunt again…looking for their next “divine connection” yet again. Looking, knocking, searching for the key to their success. The cycle is endless, tiring, time consuming, costly, draining and frustrating.

I know the cycle! I witnessed it firsthand! I have had the privilege of being around many successful leaders, some displayed great characteristics and others not so great. I learned from them all, what to do, what not to do. All in all the goal is to be a servant leader Leading yourself means:

  • To live a balanced life (meditation time/ family time/ work time / fun time)
  • To give from a place of abundance (time/ your gifts/ your money)
  • Focus on increasing your value (self-improvement/ self-care)
  • Pour into the lives of others (1on1, small groups, masses)
  • Read, read, read
  • Network, travel, make room to live and enjoy life
  • Be grateful, practice being thankful

I am sure you can add to this list, when I took my mind off money and placed on serving others, solving problems with my gifts…resources came. When you make money an issue, it becomes just that! When you focus on meeting the needs of others and you make an impact in their lives it makes you VALUABLE. I NEVER PRAY FOR MONEY! I ASK FOR WISDOM ON WHAT TO DO WITH WHAT I HAVE AND THAT IS NOT LIMITED TO MONEY!! I need wisdom in area of my life and so do you, pray for wisdom in:

  • Marriage & Family/ Relationships/ Churches
  • Health & Finances
  • Business

This is how we live, we seek first the kingdom! It’s in  him we live, move and have our being! If this helped you please let us know, tag us on FB, email us, let us know this information is beneficial to you. We are praying for your success!

Coach Coleen